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Hard guy!! Hard guy!! .. but you keep losing people

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Hola TBL squad. how you doing?  i hope y'all are great and poppin' as usual.

In philosophy class, one of the few things i understood when i was not bored out of my mind is "Tabula rasa", this is a theory that explains that at birth, the human mind is a blank slate. As we grow, we are influenced by external environments, society and the almighty of them all "Hollywood" and "novels".
I've been guilty about this, thus my shedding light on it.
Now, to the gist;
why do people think not communicating is cool, Hard guy!! Hard guy!! and you keep losing friends that matter, saying "nothing" over and over again is a way to put your partner to test, them digging deeper and deeper is the only  sign that he truly loves you. kilode??

Personally, i am a very noisy and playful person but when it gets to things that hurt me i get so mute and silent. i'd over analyze it in my head, jump to conclusion and move on with my life. the key thing is, all…

THICKA-licious

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CURVY GIRL hacks  Aloha Boss ladies. how have you been? my friend  dropped it in my mind to do a hack for curvy girls, i laughed about it at first  but when i was dressing up the next day and found myself doing some hacks it just hit me what a great idea it actually was. some things i know and do weren't learnt formally but things i had to  do, to get out of one tricky situation or the other. 
42 -34- 48 (my bust waist hips measurement) definitely curvy right ? 😅lol. wellllllll as a thick girl or just a girl with more flesh in the booty, thigh,arm or even tummy area keep reading for life changing hacks.  one thing i have learnt is that confidence is the greatest hack of all. "confidence will make you happier than any diet will." you really just have to have confidence in yourself and size, its really not about the size you wear but the way you wear your size. Living according to the society's definition of beauty just gives you unnecessary heart break because the so…

Intern!

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ÓMÓ BUTTER IN THE STREETS!

As my third day being an intern, I already had a routine. Wake up by 5:00 AM, work out for 15 minutes, start making my brothers breakfast finish like about 6:30, go and bath be ready by like 7:02 AM, then the driver takes me to work but of course the third day just had to have a twist. Woke up later than usual due to some work assignments, so I was leaving the house by 7:20 AM hoping to be able to beat any traffic that I may see and get to work before 8:00 AM or few minutes past.
Like about ten minutes away from home, which is quite far already due to Abuja roads but not too far because of early morning "Go-slow". We were in traffic, I was on my laptop trying to finish up on my work assignment when the driver tells me to wear my seat belt because of the road safety officers that were in front. I tried to be sly about it, I honestly tried 😅😅 but it wasn’t good enough because the road safety officer still  stopped us. The man now started going on and…

memoir; 2017

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p.s; this was written super super early in the year.
Hello from the other side
This is my first write up. It is supposed to be for the New Year but apparently, procrastination is one of my bad habits, unfortunately, I carried it over to this year.    I personally believe the best way to get the full view is looking from on top "life can only be understood backward but must be lived forward." thus my writing of my 2017 in 2018. Anyways, 2017 started out pretty much sad for me. I was confused about a lot of stuff emotionally. I was facing my first real breakup and not because I wasn’t interested anymore but because something bigger than us came to play. We couldn’t be together because of distance. Who knew geography could be such a big deal. I always advise and talked about how time heals wounds but I faced it firsthand. From not being sure I could be around our favorite spots to actually going there and smiling. Instead of being sad over what I lost, I actually appreciated what I…

The cherry not The icing

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Hello TBL squad,

The road from church had this T-junction, the route  home was on the left while Mr Biggs was on the right. After service when we got to the junction, my dad always asked left or right, even when he knew the answer already. we always shouted right with so much joy.

When we chose our cake for Sunday brunch, I picked based on how attractive the icing looked not caring the flavor at that moment or if it had a cherry on top or not.

The icing is what makes a cake really attractive. if various vanilla cakes are kept on a stand, with vanilla being your best flavor, you'd pick based on how pretty the icing looks.

 The cherry on the cake is that extra finishing, the final toppings, like the twinkles, or the maltesars on top or the Oreo's. Take note, that without the cherry, the cake is still very much a cake. 
  In my excitement, I probably wouldn’t have  noticed a cherry-less cake but of course it won’t hurt to have the cherry.
Now imagine a cake without any icing, just the …

villain

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Being the villain Who is a villain?👹👹👹


A villain is a bad guy. The evil stepmother that locks the princess in a really far away temple, the one that cast away the princess in a sleep to last for eternity… Anyways that was my definition of a villain As a child I always hated the villains in every story. I couldn’t fathom why the villain was so evil and no matter how handsome they could be sometimes I just couldn’t love them… Urrgghh they were so evil. Do villains exist?? Or are villains in one way or the other people that are misunderstood. Can life really be about good and evil...? Black and white... what of the little grey in the middle. Let’s leave the grey in the middle for the villains that were misunderstood... Judge the story below with your mind as plain as a blank canvas, not like the 12-year-old me. Black/white/grey? When kemi was going to the university, her secondary school friends dreaded her school. So she literally knew no one, she knew she had to make friends from the …

self love

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Self-love. Self-love is loving yourself regardless of your flaws. Personally I feel like self-love is owning yourself and loving it. Knowing your strengths and working towards your weakness and loving yourself every step on the way.

When I was younger, I always battled with self-love. I was a people-pleaser. I couldn’t bear the thoughts of anyone being angry with me, I tried to make everyone like me, in every way possible. I just wanted to be in everyone’s good book. I think it had to do with the fact that I was highly in touch with my emotions but as i grew up, I realized that I didn’t love myself enough. If I loved myself enough and owned my identity I wouldn’t have given “two biscuits” about what anyone thought of me.

For the most part of high school I was bigger than all my friends. I always got teased about it. It might have been all jokes but I could have done anything to be considered normal. To just fit right in. I wasn’t outrageously big, I was just tall and I hated it so much t…